As a tried and true WCC you have most likely been in at least one committed relationship throughout your life.  You may or may not be currently married but you are traditional in the sense that you believe in one partner (at a time) and marriage.

Well, at Club Fed you are going to come into contact with sojourners that do not share your background/beliefs.

You will hear Camp Mates refer to their significant others as “Baby Momma”/”Baby Daddy” as opposed to husband/wife.  They may also have more than one Baby Momma/Daddy.

While this term is rather self explanatory it is indicative of the era in which we live.  People are not necessarily committed to their significant others (SOs) and here are some telltale signs to think about when you complete your sabbatical and re-enter life with The Scarlet F.

If your SO does any of the following he/she has lost that loving feeling toward you:

-Your “date night” consists of the two of you eating at the bar (versus the lovely tables nearby) as your SO chats with the bartender on a first name basis.

-Your SO has acquired all of your pre-sabbatical closet, drawer and medicine cabinet space.

-Instead of referring to the two of you as “we” it’s now “me” or “you.”

-When your SO introduces you to new friends/acquaintances you are referred to by your first name as opposed to “my partner/SO/wife/husband.”

-Special dates (Birthdays, Anniversaries, Holidays) are not jointly celebrated or simply forgotten/shrugged off.

I know, it seems rather obvious when observing from afar but when people are emotionally wrapped up in their SO they tend not to notice the glaring signs or make excuses for them, so hopefully a Friend of F will read this and take them aside to explain the painfully evident.

It is at this point that you should relegate this former SO to your Chuck It List (see related post).  Life is difficult enough post Camp so it is necessary to be surrounded by (and supported by) those that value you.