Mean girls turn into Mean Moms.  Don’t be surprised if your kids are invited to an event and you are told “it’s best you not attend to not make others uncomfortable.”  What that MM is telling you is that THEY are uncomfortable that you will be there, and what they are teaching their children is that they are being cruel and unkind to another human being.

A Scarlet Sister recently shared a story where her daughter was invited to a Church after party but she was disinvited.  Yes, a Church party.  The place where they are supposed to accept all, forgive and embrace those that have suffered.  She was taken aback so she let her daughter go but stayed home.  Upon reflection she realized that this was teaching her daughter that her Mother was not worthy of being seen in public and she wrote to the MM who disinvited her telling her that by suggesting she shouldn’t participate is saying that her daughter should be ashamed of her.  She informed her that in order for her community to heal they need acceptance as a whole.  She wants to be a good citizen and show remorse for her actions and set an example for her daughter by attending in the future.

What she showed was fortitude.  She was courageous enough to stand up to the MM and fight for her acceptance as well as set a strong example for her daughter not to let other people make you feel less of yourself.

One mistake does not define a person. Good people make bad decisions. It happens. The important thing is to take responsibility for your actions and never make a bad decision again. This includes standing up for yourself and letting others know that it is not acceptable to be cruel or dismissive of someone. Treat people how you wish to be treated.